
New tree for our new place! Photo by @iamdanmckinley
Dan and I live in San Francisco on nonprofit salaries. When we moved here three years ago we went from sharing an apartment in North Adams, Massachusetts to renting two places and flying to see each other every four to six weeks. Our finances took a nosedive and even when we united in SF we thought we might never own a home. Housing is infamously expensive here.
And yet … we started saving. And saving, and saving. We stayed in our little studio apartment even though Dan worked from home, which meant he stared at the same four walls all day long. The housing market continued to plummet, interest rates and prices dropped. Dan got a new job in the city and our life started to feel more stable. Rent prices started increasing, which meant that if we ever wanted to move into a bigger apartment it was slim pickings and we would be paying twice as much as our studio, not much less than a mortgage payment.
Friends who know me well know that owning a home has been an obsession of mine for many years. I’ve had landlords who didn’t pay for heat and I’ve been evicted by a move-in owner. I’ve lived in an artist cooperative that was low-cost and high-stress. I’ve been the victim of an apartment fire that destroyed all my belongings. When it comes to art, I love risk and surprise and discovery. When it comes to housing I am all about stability.
Most of the people I know in San Francisco think that home ownership here is beyond their reach. However, of the few people I know in SF who are homeowners, many are artists and arts workers who either a) bought in the 1970s, when housing affordability was comparable to what it is today, or b) qualified for a subsidized housing program.
if you are an artist or arts worker and think you will ever want to own a home, I strongly recommend taking a checking out your city or state assistance programs and taking a free class now. It’s worth it. You will learn about what’s possible and not possible and if your income is close to the below-market-rate eligibility limit, you may discover some windows of opportunity that you weren’t aware of. If you are thinking of buying a home with a partner, learning together will help get you on the same page.
When you consider the whole picture, including cost of studio space and tax breaks, you may learn that the cost of buying is closer to the cost of renting than you think, especially since the average rent in the city is now around $2,361 and rising. According to the National Association of Realtors Housing Affordability Index—which compares median home sale prices to median incomes and interest rates—housing affordability hasn’t been this strong since the 1970s.
If I sound like an evangelist, it’s because I am. I believe that homeownership is to community as marriage is to love. It is weighed down by taxes, politics, finances and the expectations of family and friends. It is easier for those who grew up with privilege to become homeowners, and it’s not necessary—you can be part of a community without it. But homeownership is also about commitment. It’s about roots, about going “all in” and tying yourself to a neighborhood and a city. I want to see as many artists and arts workers as possible living in their city of choice, invested in their community, un-evictable and empowered.
So, I will follow up on this blog with some details about our process in the hope that it will help someone else buy a home. If there is anything in particular you want to hear about (navigating big decisions with a partner, negotiating an offer, choosing a neighborhood, working with a lender) let me know and I will try to write something.




I just bought, scraping by, with using an FHA loan for a place in Twin Peaks after literally 14 or 15 rejected offers on places around the city. I HIGHLY recommend the broker I used; he knows about all the nasty SF laws, condo issues, and FHA “fixer upper” guidelines:
Gregg Rader
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Nice post! I too am in the same boat where a mortgage would be about the same when we decide to upgrade from our tiny one bedroom that we are so tired of. I am struggling with location and have come to terms that if I want to buy then I will have to venture out a little farther but have also discovered some great communitites out there….
Let me be one of those people who says it can happen! My husband and I don’t make lots of money. I’m and artist and designer and he’s a writer. We don’t have Google salaries and neither of us come from wealthy families. BUT, just recently, our years of saving and hoping paid off. We found an adorable 2 bedroom flat in SOMA that was $150K below anything similar to it on the market. We couldn’t believe it! Even our mortgage will be LESS than renting a 2 bedroom. Unheard of!!! There are really great deals out there. Unfortunately there aren’t enough for everyone. It helps to have a good realtor who is your advocate.
As for big decision making with your partner, THAT was a big test of strength. I don’t think ANYTHING could have prepared us for the amount of anxiety we went through as a couple. It really can be one of the biggest scariest thing you will ever do. But stick with it!!! Our bond is even stronger now after going through the process.
Good luck to anyone out there! You can do it!
David, I agree choosing location is one of the hardest decisions, that will definitely be addressed in one of my follow-up posts. The silver lining is that we discovered a lot of great new places in the city while we were on the hunt.
Congratulations! I was looking in SoMa, there are not too many homes under $500k on the market in general, but many of the better values I saw were in Western SoMa near my favorite arts center, SOMArts (where I work). My favorite had some unpermitted work but was gorgeous. Sounds like you found a good one.
I must admit, I was completely in awe when I heard you two were buying a house in San Francisco. And despite the fact that I already own a place — on the complete other side of the continent, no less — I’m encouraged and uplifted by your post. I love the idea of home ownership as going “all-in” and making a commitment to the community. It’s a welcome relief from so much talk about value and investment — the financial type — though surely, even now, it can be that, too.
Thanks Lex. Here’s the rub. I know some artist couples that have saved and bought, but very few of them have children. We’re starting to look into buying in the East Bay because we want a small yard and a safe neighborhood for around $400,000. I don’t think this is possible in the City anymore. The sad calculus is that SF is great for singles and couples, but not so accommodating to small families because of real estate issues and the wacky public school system. Also, a lot of the programs for lower income families allow you to buy below market value, but when you sell the program’s guidelines limit your profit. I look forward to reading your blog and maybe learning about solutions to what seems like an impossible situation for us.
My niece has been trying to sell her condo for several months. It’s in the Carl Street area near UC Hospital in a development originally built through the nonprofit organization Bridge Housing. The organization helps working families into homeownership. In this particular development, the City of SF provides a second loan totaling $100,000 towards the purchase of the condo if you qualify based on family size and income. The City’s Office of Housing has done a poor job seeking families into this program assistance. The director recently left to join Mercy Housing.
Meg, I agree there is more space for your money in the East Bay. SF’s population of children under the age of 18 has declined from 22% in 1970 to barely 13% now. I was surprised how much talk there was about affordable housing at last night’s Mayoral Arts Forum.
I’ll be eagerly following your via crucis, we’re in the same boat ourselves
We’ve been trying to buy/rent somewhere as close as possible to Caltrain (too many years commuting
. I’ve been meaning to crunch some numbers for renting vs. buying vs. buying a BMR. Realtors keep telling us BMRs are not worth it, but my little brain can’t accept that. Sure, you don’t get all that equity, but with the price difference you’d put the extra $ in some retirement account. Good luck!!
I have recently begun following your blog and you have gotten me very excited about my decision to move with my partner to San Francisco in May. I graduated from the University of South Carolina about a year ago and currently work in communications, my man
is a free-lance lighting designer. We are taking a huge risk as we do not have jobs waiting for us in SF. However, we are ready for the challenge and cannot wait to dive into the art scene and build friendships with the lovely people of your city. Of course we will not be looking into buying a home to begin but will be looking for an affordable studio apartment. Can you offer any suggestions on communities to look into?
One of the things I was not expecting when I moved here was how much significance people place on where you live. Mat Honan wrote a great post a few years back that offers some good advice.
If you haven’t already tried it, you might consider checking out the sublets on Craigslist. When I moved here I was on a tight budget and started off in a sublet. Later my sub-lessor moved to New York and I took over the lease. Our friends Jessi and Will took the same approach and lived in a few sublets before settling into a neighborhood they were familiar with.
Good luck!
My gf and I started looking around for a condo in the beginning of November. We closed on a brand new place today in SOMA. It’s doable. Don’t give up on SF. It’s totally worth everything to own here.
Congratulations! If you started looking in November you were lucky … that’s a remarkable turnaround. And since you are in SoMA, stop by SOMArts one of these days!